At This Moment…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on November 26, 2018 by jezzywolfe

I am currently dealing with the oncoming passing of one of my parents.

Much to my surprise, I have largely been able to keep my composure among family and hospital staff this past week. By myself, though, it’s a different ballgame. Maybe there’s an internal switch that flips automatically to help me remain stoic and rational in the face of this painful madness. I worry that family will mistake it for coldness or lack of compassion.

But I am not a cold person. I do not lack compassion. I can’t even kill a bug accidentally without feeling sorrow. True story.

I would change this situation in a heartbeat, if I could. No matter what has happened in the past, I love my family fiercely. I have done the things I’ve done out of a need to protect my loved ones. Even now, as I keep my back rigid, and my voiced thoughts extremely clinical, it is to protect my dear parent.

As a child, I was very loved. I never doubted that. As an adult, my parents have continued to love me, and show their support of me. Anything I say or do now is because I know they need me to be this strong. For them. So they can move on comfortably. And gently.

But if I thought an emotional tantrum could change the outcome, I would do it. In a heartbeat. Biggest tantrum you ever saw. It would be a most glorious and super effective tantrum. You’d be impressed.

But now, all I really can do is to keep telling them I love them, and hope that is what they hear when they finally choose to go.

We are never ready for these things, are we?

I thought I would be. But I’m not.


News to You!

Posted in Contest, General, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , on February 6, 2019 by jezzywolfe

The year got off to a very rough, very shaky start. But I am not sitting on my hands in despair. I decided to push myself. Finally. As of now, I’ve sent off three submissions this past month. One is in the reading phase, and it will be months before I know if it made the cut.

The other two have faired pretty well.

TODAY, my flash story, TALISMAN, is available to be read and voted for on the CRYSTAL LAKE PUBLISHING Patreon. Yes, you need to be a CLP supporter to read and vote, but you can sign up for just $1 a month. They offer great perks to their supporters, and a metric butt-ton of fantastic fiction. (Yes, I measured it.)

If you want to check out TALISMAN and give me a vote, head over to


Additionally, a second flash story is available for voting at the Stitched Smiles Publications site. It’s a fun little story, titled ONE FANTASTIC BAUBLE. Head over and take a peek at it. Maybe give it a like or a comment. Doing so is a virtual high five, and I appreciate it. Sincerely.

If you want to check out ONE FANTASTIC BAUBLE, head over to


My intention this year is to keep pushing forward. I want the year to end with at least one solo published project, if not more. I am still working on my BEELZEBACON novella, and still contemplating a poetry or short story collection. My first novel, THE TRENCH, is awaiting edits so I can work towards getting that published, as well.

I am also contemplating launching a Patreon account, that would provide my supporters with a regular stream of new content, as well as recipes and goodies from my KetoB!tch blog. More information on that once it’s better fleshed out.

Meanwhile, GO. Check out my stories. I hope you enjoy them.

All my love, guys.


The Regret

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on January 7, 2019 by jezzywolfe

Saturday night, I dreamed about my mother.

While many of the details of the dream are fuzzy now, I remember she was wearing her red velvet hat with the black flower on it. Her hair was thick and wavy, a golden red, and hung just past her shoulders. She wore a red blouse and a black skirt with red flowers on it. She was flushed, and looked …healthy. She looked happy.

I could only think of how beautiful she looked.

The weird thing was, I was noticing she was wearing her hat, but anxious because I actually gave that hat to her cousin when she went into Hospice. I couldn’t understand how she’d gotten her hat back. And then I realized I was seeing a memory of her, back when she was healthier and vibrant, before she ended up in the nursing home. I was relieved because I worried she would feel betrayed that I gave her hat away like that.

I spent all day yesterday thinking of her. Specifically, I spent the day thinking about how I don’t remember ever telling my mom she was beautiful, even though she said it to me countless times. I always just saw her as ‘Mom’. I didn’t see her as a woman with insecurities and doubts, just like me. I kept her in a labeled box and never stopped to think about how that might feel for her.

Even with her weight struggles, my mom had clear blue eyes, very few wrinkles, and a young face. She had MUCH better ankles than me, which I admittedly envied, because I have terrible, unattractive ankles, myself. My mom was the kind of beautiful that did not require makeup or powder, even though she was always asking me to buy her some. I suppose makeup looked alright on her when she was younger, but as she got older, I just thought it was unnecessary. She didn’t need it, unlike me. I always did. But my mom was naturally beautiful.

And I never told her so.

Yes, I’d compliment her choice of outfits. I would tell her that her hair looked nice that day. She’d ask where I was getting my hair colored and how much it cost, because she really liked the color, and I always answered half-minded, without considering how depressing that was for her. She hated that she had so much gray. I could’ve at least taken her out to have her hair colored. I mean, when I am unhappy with my hair, I am miserable until I do something about it.

She had been unhappy with her hair for so long. I never made it a priority.

It was wonderful to see her in my dream, looking so radiant. A reminder that she had looked that way before. But now, there is the dull ache of realization that I can sit here and tell thousands of people how beautiful my mom was, and it doesn’t matter at all. Because I should have told HER that.

I did tell her, as I sat by her side. While she was on the ventilators, and when she went to hospice. I told her how nice her hair looked that day. I’d bought her a sparkly pink makeup bag that I knew she would love, and bought colorful hair clips and soft hair ties, lip glosses, hand lotion, and a glittery compact mirror. I bought it for her the day after she had her strokes, thinking I could surprise her with it when she woke up.

But she never saw it.

I use it now. Even though she didn’t know it, it was her bag, and I use it as a way to remember. I sleep with the last stuffed animal I had bought her… a floppy brown dog that I gave her the last time she had been in the hospital before her strokes. I kept two of her sweaters and I wear them alot around the house. There was one afternoon that I pulled on one sweater, hugged her dog to me, and fell asleep on the couch beside her butterfly tree.

I remember at some point feeling like someone was hugging me. I was alone, of course, but there was that feeling of comfort.

This regret eats at me. That I didn’t tell her how beautiful she was. That I never mentioned how much I appreciated her. I’m sure I said thanks from time to time. But I don’t know that she ever knew how much I appreciated everything she did for me. There were too many things to mention, things worth appreciating.

The opportunity I had to let her know is gone now.

She may be gone, but she left me with some wonderful memories. She wouldn’t want me to sit here, feeling like shit. It cannot be helped now, unfortunately.

You always think you will have time to rectify.

Don’t set yourself up for a woulda, coulda, shoulda.


Days in Between

Posted in Uncategorized on January 3, 2019 by jezzywolfe

New Years always feels like a punch to the refresh button.

But usually, after a day or two, the smoke settles. And you discover it’s the same old business as usual. Maybe even a slightly drearier business as usual, because we always expect things to be fresh and new and exciting. When we discover it’s not, that’s a blow.

That’s where I am at now… the smoke has cleared. I still have my focus set on my goals, and I have worked actively towards them, even in these first few days of the new year. But I need to step back and scrutinize the way there. I was so excited about a future of new friends, new things to look forward to. I focused on that the past two months, when things were so difficult… what I could look forward to once the dark passed.

But the dark has passed. The way forward is clear. It is also alone. I suppose I got ahead of myself.

That’s kinda the way it’s always been for me. I get ahead of myself. I let down my guard and I put myself out there. Right before the cold shower of reality crashes over me. I am just me. I’m not a part of any circles. I am not indespensable. I may even be worth avoiding.

These thoughts, I realize, are not healthy. I’d love to be rid of them. But I’m on a loop that occasionally tricks me into believing I found my way off. Sadly, I haven’t.

Same shit, different day, week, year, lifetime…

Yes, I am a little depressed, I guess. I said I wouldn’t be. This particular depression won’t hold me back, though. Because it brings with it a resolve. This is just how it will always be for me. I am okay in minute doses, but anything more than that, and you should run.

You’ll be relieved to discover I DON’T CHASE after anyone who cuts ties with me. If anyone chooses to leave my life, I let them. I don’t hang around, hoping for their change of heart. I won’t waste my time that way. It’s not that I hold grudges or stay angry. I just get gone. And then I stay that way for good. Because as much as I hate the idea that people feel like they’d want to avoid me, I hate the idea that they think I can’t survive without them, somehow, even more. I will survive just fine.

I could tell myself it’s their loss. We always say that, don’t we? As if we each possess some irreplaceable spark that others gravitate towards. The only spark any of us ever need is just our own, anyway.

That’s a lonely realization to make. But as a society, we’ve already started shutting ourselves off from each other. When I go walking, I notice how many of the people I pass have their eyes down on their cellphones, rather than what’s around them. Whenever I make a new acquaintenece, everyone wants to swap phone numbers…but never to actually speak to anyone. They just want text. They are content to let all their interactions be voiceless words on a screen. Personally, I hate that. I want to hear what someone sounds like when they laugh. LOLs leave so much out of that experience. I want to hear them react to news, or conversations. I get tired of trying to determine if their incredibly combative or argumentative social media posts are something I should feel is directed at me. I get tired of always guessing where I stand.

I want real people in my life. Not virtual companions. Flesh and blood. An actual high five when I manage to achieve something. Not a hand emoji on a screen. A real hug, not multiple parenthesis around my name. Legitimate contact with other human beings. Because that is when I feel I have value. That is when I know my friendship is really worth something to someone else.

But for a while now, I’ve gotten a very different message. Well, message received. Loudly. What I’ve looked for is clearly out of line with a culture that would rather confine itself to binary transmissions.

When I graduated high school, I anticipated that I would soon find myself dealing with loneliness. None of my friends were around anymore. They had their lives and their better friends to focus on. One day, I made myself a small clay dragon, which I named Dega. I made Dega so I wouldn’t have to be alone. I found comfort in the idea that I’d have a companion even after everyone forgot about me. Even then, I felt like an outcast.

I don’t have Dega anymore. I don’t know what happened to it. And I know I’m not completely alone, because I have my family. But I do not have a BFF, and I never have had one, and it’s been an empty reality my entire life. The reality is, the things you want the most are the things you’ve never had. I wanted that best friend. That actual partner in crime. Not seasonal buddies that grow distant and detached.

A real life clay dragon… that’s neither clay, or a dragon.

I wish I still had Dega.

I’m still contemplating shutting down the KetoB!tch blog. As much as I was excited about it, I don’t have it in me to be so Pollyanna right now. The end of the year was a difficult time for me, and one that left me feeling rather cast out. I wanted a new start to the year, but it’s still just another day. I’m still the same pathetic child, overly excited anytime someone tosses me a crumb. I don’t know that I can encourage others when keeping my own head above water is such a challenge.

I’m not giving up my keto, or my fitness. I’m back to walking. I will continue to progress. But I might not be so quick to share it, now. I’m not actually doing it for anyone other than myself, anyway. Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s that I think I care significantly more. And then I end up feeling like a complete fool.

Time to stop feeling like a complete fool.
Time to stop feeling. Period.

Now is the time to just keep my head down and push forward.
With or without anyone else.

Ruminations on the Sparktacular Advent of a New Year. And Tay Tay.

Posted in Uncategorized on January 1, 2019 by jezzywolfe


It’s 11:43. No… 11:44. The last minutes of the year are trickling away like a stream of urine after 5 energy drinks. Gee whizz.

*smarcastic emoji here*


It is now 12:05. I mean, 12:06. Though it will be later than that when I finish this, and even later still before you get to rest your ocular orbs upon it, you lucky fucker. Because that’s the way time works. It passes. Quickly.

I’m on my fourth glass of wine, and while my belly is warm, I only feel just slightly ridiculous. So this might not be a drunken post, as much as a slightly-warmed-belly post. Last year’s post was so morose, I didn’t want to make that a habit. But if I ever earned a drunken New Year’s post, it was this one.

On December 11th, my mother passed away. It had been a long, heartbreaking decline since her strokes on November 18th. At 1:11pm, almost a month later, she faded away with my hand over her heart, hoping she would open her eyes one last time for me. Even now, it’s hard to wrap my head around. She was always here… and now she’s gone. I’m not sure I’ve really unpacked what that means.

The rest of the month passed in a whirlwind of crazed motions and never-ending to-do lists. I stayed busy because that’s my way of pushing through difficult situations. Nose to the grindstone. Don’t think, don’t react, don’t dwell… function only. Human automation. It’s a survival mechanism that never lets me down.

Now, tonight, it’s just drink. And eat. And sing. By myself. Because who the hell cares if I even know the right words, right? I sing the words that SHOULD be the correct lyrics. IDGAF. Somebody better recognize! I wrote the songs that made the whole world sing until somebody else wrote them differently. And on actual paper. Assholes.


((Is that even a thing? It is now.))

If you thought I was singing before, just you wait. We just cued up TAY TAY on Netflix. That’s right. I’m gonna know you were trouble when you walked in. And all that other shit. But can I just ask… why are they crying?! Friggin groupies, I swear. Scream and cheer, yes. BUT. Is it really a compliment if the sight of your idol makes you start bawling like you just lost your rent money on a bad hand of Uno? I would think it would. It would would. Would. Wut? Would it? What’s with all that? So much would. Yes. I would so do that.

What was I saying?

I don’t remember. But some dude in the audience knows ALL the words. Enthusiastically. I’m kinda impressed. But one spectacular dab move, and that poor girl next to him is gonna need a doctor.

OKAY. Back to whatever the hell I was posting about.

Yeah, so the year kicked my ass. For the past month and a half, it was murder. Basically. But, before that? Last year was not my worst year. As a writer, sure, not my most productive year. But an incredible period of my life, nonetheless.

This time last year I was hitting a dark low. By March, I’d had enough. So I spent the rest of the year proving you don’t need fucking resolutions or even hydrotherapy to overhaul your life. I was one person when 2017 ended. But I haven’t been that person in almost a year now. And I won’t be her again. She’s gone now.

See, even with the devastation of December, I will not succumb to that hopeless depression again. Yes, I fell off my keto while sitting vigil, but I’ve already proven to myself that I can do it. I’ve still lost most of the weight I was trying to lose. I still have the energy to move. I fell off my path briefly, but it’s still within my sightline, so I will be back on track. It starts tomorrow. Wait…


And that’s not a resolution, mi compressors. I don’t believe in that crap, as you well remember. Resolutions are mad for show, and then for breaking. Change and growth, you do that because it’s time. You do that because you want to. And you don’t let silly platitudes made over champagne and kolaches sidetrack you.

You know what would be awesome? If kolaches suddenly became THE thing on New Years. Just because I mentioned it. You’re probably sitting there salivating over a kolache now. Like, a strawberry one. Or a tripe and feta. I’ve never actually had one, so I’m kinda just spitballing these suggestions. Are they good? Is tripe a good pairing for feta?

You’re glad to be reading this. I ask all the important questiions. I hit home hard with these thought provoking queries. It’s a gift. Much like tripe is a gift.

I’ve never had tripe. I’m beginning to suspect it’s not even an actual thing. Is it tripe, or is it trite? Maybe it’s trite tripe? That could be a great band name, by the way. Or a flavor of kolache.



This year, I won’t resolve to do anything. I won’t resolute a bunch of stuff. I will simply do it.

Pretty controversal, amIright?

It’s so simple, it’s practically genius.

But the simplest things are often the smartest. And the most successful.

So that’s how I do the damn thing. Not with declarations. Not with a list a rules for dating your daughter.


I’ll just do what I do. I’ve made goals for myself, yes. But they are important to me. Not something espoused as pithy holiday customs. But real shit I actually want to acheive.

Last year I learned how to transform my body.

Now watch me transform my life.

This could be a disaster. It could be a train wreck.

Or it could be the most fantastic adventure of my life.

Wanna see where this goes?

Yeah. Me too.

Let’s roll.



Where I’ve Been and Where I’m Headed.

Posted in Uncategorized on November 17, 2018 by jezzywolfe

I was doing pretty good for a while here, with the spontaneous poetry, and all that. But I was also struggling, with a lot of things. Emotionally.

So, by the end of February, I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself. I got off my ass and went back to the park. I started back to the gym. In mid-March, I started adjusting my lifestyle as far as the way I ate, and adopted a ketogenic eating plan.

I’m 60 pounds lighter now.

But making my health such a huge focus has eaten into time I might’ve otherwise spent writing. I’m finding it challenging to maintain a regular writing schedule, in addition to daily walking, frequent gym visits, cooking and experimenting, and getting red light therapy treatments. Now, with the holidays looming, I am having to cut back on everything to force myself to address issues around the house. Because, despite everything else, I still have a house to run. And that’s eating time, too.

So, what has suffered most, has been my creative time. I have stories to tell. The Beelzebacon saga is not complete yet. Plus, I recently made a decision to embark on a lofty endeavor… but that is even more time consuming than all the other things I’ve done to date. And I’m nervous about it, in particular. I feel rather inept and unprepared.

The future is a jumbled mess of chaos. My spouse is considering a drastic change in employment, and that makes me rather nervous, as well, though I understand why he feels the need to do so. It’s everything, all at once, all in my face, and I work best when I can just focus on one singular goal at a time. I don’t know where to even start, with all this.

So, it made little sense to launch YET ANOTHER blog, with everything that’s been going on. You’re probably all, “Have you lost your bloody mind, Jezzy?”

Yes. Yes, I have.

See, since I kept posting about the progress I’ve made with the Keto, I started getting messages from FB friends, looking for advice and tips. Some were discouraged with their lack of results. Some were interested in the recipes I was making. It’s a pain in the butt to post recipes on a FB post, by the way. Their lack of a legit post editor is a royal pain in the ass.

I joked on a number of occasions that I was going to call myself KetoBitch and start a blog with that persona. Partly to give me a place to properly post recipes and tips and the like withoout the hassle of FB formatting. And partly because it seemed like everytime I posted about some information I was digesting, at least one person would feel the need to argue with me about it.

If I was going to have to be a bitch, I might as well own it.

So, that’s where I’ve been. I launched KetoB!tch a couple weeks ago, and have tried to devote time to it daily. I’ve posted recipes for my Cheese Crack sauce, a Pumpkin Spice Cake, and Mouthgasm…the best chocolate mug cake, that is also sugar free. I’ve tried to post some posts meant to be uplifting and encouraging. And I’ve posted about walking, how it benefits you, and also hiking, which I’ve recently discovered I love.

But it’s hard to gain momentum. The blog is getting steady traffic, yes, but it’s not the traffic I hoped for. I intend to seek affiliate partnerships with a few product lines I’ve grown rather fond of. In that way, I could actually generate revenue with KetoB!tch. From all I’ve read, that’s the way to turn blogging into money.

You know me, though. Easily frustrated. Easily discouraged. With all the encouragement I got to start the blog, the traffic hasn’t reflected the interest it seemed to have whenever I mentioned it on FB. I’m not really sure what to do with it.

I shouldn’t have neglected this space, though. I am behind on keeping my publications page updated. There’s several publications not listed at all. I attended Scares That Care in August, and neglected to make a post con post about it, even though I had a fantastic time meeting some of my longtime friends in person. I read at another Fright Flight reading, and that went smoothly, as well.

I’ve kept you all in the dark, and I’m surprised this blog gets any traffic at all, considering my neglect. I sincerely apologize.

I will have some new announcements soon. I will try to do better.

In the meantime, if you are curious, or so inclined, please check out the new blog? Let me know what you think of it. Even if Keto is not your thing, maybe I can say something that helps you along.

Find me at

I do hope you’ll stop by. I value your support.


Tout espoir brûle avec la fin de l’hiver…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on March 10, 2018 by jezzywolfe


“Nature’s first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.”

– Robert Frost



I envisioned it, all of this,
The passages and waylays,
A myriad of misadventures,
Years burgeoning with laughter.
But failed to see the moment,
When the tracks had rusted,
And the train derailed,
Spilling over our landscape.

We could say that nothing changed,
But I know it’s merely easement,
And you know it’s worth avoiding,
The awkward that prevails.
By way of our secondary reaction
To shrug off and move forward
Time will ensure the frayed cord,
Gives way to the big wide open.

And that’s another closed door,
A crossed bridge felled to the rushing,
Another winter frozen through,
As we held our souls in their cages.
We survived the douleurs de croissance,
Only to witness our devastation,
Guised as early ombre of Spring,
Glazing poignant thorns in gold.


JW ©2018